tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9745833.post116837536360660405..comments2023-09-27T01:30:28.183-07:00Comments on Mama Blah Blah: Bits and PiecesLisa Blah Blahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14173613135973246179noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9745833.post-1168983043783863582007-01-16T13:30:00.000-08:002007-01-16T13:30:00.000-08:00cee: I'm not in pain per se, I'm experiencing disc...cee: I'm not in pain per se, I'm experiencing discomfort, and it comes and goes. For instance, if I'm lying down and I laugh, sometimes it hurts. Sometimes it doesn't. Sometimes it hurts when I'm not doing anything. Sometimes not. I'm fairly certain this is fibroid-related, but then, I'm not a medical professional. Today, I feel okay. I think I can hang in for another week.<BR/><BR/>e: Yeah, it's a very tough issue. People certainly are opinionated about what you choose to do with your own family -- my grandmother, for example, says that my sister "waited too late" to have her second child and shouldn't have had her kids so far apart (there's a 4 year age difference). My sister had secondary infertility and had to go on Clomid for several months after already trying to conceive for several months without it, so she wasn't "waiting" to have another kid, she was having problems. I know I'm off on a tangent, but my point (and I do have one) is that it's really nobody's damn business when or if you choose to bring another child into the family. It's really exasperating trying to deal with other people's expectations. <BR/><BR/>That said, I love having the one child so much. Viva is generally pretty easy at this point (knock on wood) -- we are quite a happy little family, and if I only ever had her, I wouldn't feel something was missing. But then, I would love for her to have the closeness with a sibling that I had growing up. There are no guarantees that she would have that closeness with either a biological or adoptive sibling, I know. I just would like for her to have that extra dollop of love and "I got your back" feeling. <BR/><BR/>Someday I'll figure this all out. But today, I need to get lunch.Lisa Blah Blahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14173613135973246179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9745833.post-1168972514017146542007-01-16T10:35:00.000-08:002007-01-16T10:35:00.000-08:00Man, what a great post. You really raise some goo...Man, what a great post. You really raise some good issues here. I've dealt with the "will you have another?" question so many times, and as a mom-of-one who is struggling with the question of whether to have another, I don't really appreciate it. I don't know: do parents with two kids get asked this all the time? Maybe. I doubt it. <BR/><BR/>Sometimes when I'm battling my ambivalence about whether to stick with one or try to have another, I think of the adoption option as a possibility. But I've struggled with many of the questions you ask above. (Esp. b/c we're white, and would never want to go out of our way to adopt a white baby or kid, but I worry about the ethics of raising a child with needs arising from racial and cultural identity that I'm not sure I'm qualified to address.)<BR/><BR/>Anyway, I think if Viva ends up getting a sibling, it'll be great in many ways. But one is great too, and that family configurations has a lot of advantages. (And if you're interested in some good info on why only children are not inherently deprived, check out Bill McKibben's <I>Maybe One: A Personal and Environmental Argument for Single-Child Families</I>.)E.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10023959769203103393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9745833.post-1168377896593995722007-01-09T13:24:00.000-08:002007-01-09T13:24:00.000-08:00You know I've had my fair share of pain, so my rec...You know I've had my fair share of pain, so my recommendation is go to the ER. You may have to wait, but it sure won't be a two week wait, just hours. That way you can deal with what you need to deal with now rather than later. You'll have to f/u with your primary afterwards anyway. When you f/u, they ususally squeeze you in earlier for a f/u visit after you've already been to the ER. They'll also be forwarded your tests so they'll know what they're dealing with.<BR/><BR/>If you can swing it, that's how I'd go. Pain sucks.Cee in SFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03463492479217583941noreply@blogger.com