tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9745833.post7129033530209244275..comments2023-09-27T01:30:28.183-07:00Comments on Mama Blah Blah: Birds, Bees & OgresLisa Blah Blahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14173613135973246179noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9745833.post-64769077663708483952009-12-17T14:40:52.332-08:002009-12-17T14:40:52.332-08:00All: Thanks for sharing such a personal experience...All: Thanks for sharing such a personal experience with me. I got a lot of good feedback!<br /><br />Molly: I like your approach, esp. the part about the sacred nature of the process. I was not ready for her question so I didn't even go there!<br /><br />Bridget: yup, I think this is just one of many many conversations we'll have about sex as she gets older and more curious. Good for you for being ready and willing to follow up on what they're teaching your daughter in class!<br /><br />Nerd Girl: See, you need to watch this space so you can be ready! Mine is a year older so maybe you can learn from my mistakes. :-)Lisa Blah Blahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14173613135973246179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9745833.post-66324206664681061422009-12-16T07:13:35.301-08:002009-12-16T07:13:35.301-08:00Mine hasn't asked yet (she's 5) but I'...Mine hasn't asked yet (she's 5) but I'm sure she will soon and I'll probably be stunned for a moment and then answer much as you did. And I KNOW she will go forth and share her new knowledge with her classmates! <br /><br />I don't remember either of my parents having "The Talk" with me. When I was 16 - and headed to college - my Mom asked me if I had "any questions." Um, no. I plan to be much more open with Lovegirl no matter how embarassing it gets. For me - she'll be fine!Nerd Girlhttp://nerdgirlms.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9745833.post-84080039932947800542009-12-15T14:13:48.350-08:002009-12-15T14:13:48.350-08:00PS To answer your question about our own experienc...PS To answer your question about our own experiences, I remember the talk about periods but not the one about sex. I think my mom gave me a book but I don't really remember. Weird, huh (to quote Viva)? Maybe I just blocked it all out? ;-)Bridgethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07673825799833731465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9745833.post-63161284018539286892009-12-15T14:09:53.170-08:002009-12-15T14:09:53.170-08:00I've gone over this with my older daughter, wh...I've gone over this with my older daughter, who is now 12, when she was in fourth grade (now getting ready for the younger daughter). I just did the basics and I approached it much like you did. Since we have animals sometimes it comes up because of them so it's sort of "this is nature, this is the living world" but with the human element of appropriateness. I'm hoping that it's a good way to keep the dialogue going.<br /><br />And how timely that you should post this because they have their sex ed class TODAY in middle school. I'll see what she retains because having 'the talk' early I've noticed that they forget some of the specifics. It's a topic that will probably get covered many times, I'm sure.Bridgethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07673825799833731465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9745833.post-31357639607960756782009-12-15T06:12:09.258-08:002009-12-15T06:12:09.258-08:00I answered honestly and succinctly- and just suffi...I answered honestly and succinctly- and just sufficiently- when asked questions, then scheduled the Big Talk for when they turned eight. I figure it's widely considered the age of accountability, it's (hopefully) right before the age when her friends will start volunteering questionable information, and, as you said, it introduces open communication about the subject so when they do get some lovely piece of misinformation at school, they feel it is an open topic to discuss with me. I would say that some kids might need to hear it a little sooner, depending on their level of curiosity, some a little later. My second daughter has been eight for a few months, but hasn't asked me many questions at all. As a result, I keep forgetting to schedule The Talk. OUr approach is to make it a special day where we give them this beautiful information and express to them the sacred nature of the process. Hopefully that will help them see it as such, instead of a dirty, uncomfortable thing that shouldn't be talked about with Mom and Dad, or a frivolous thing to be taken lightly and engaged in inappropriately. My oldest is only 10, so we shall see. So far, it has kept the communication open, though.Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15735937453303047247noreply@blogger.com