Update on the day care situation:
The director of the center did not read my email. She heard from Cily’s caregiver that I had emailed her, so she called and left a message saying she would rather just speak with me in person.
When we spoke, she had the nerve to argue with me. Incredibly, she seemed to think that if Cily wasn’t crying, there was no reason to think she might be hungry. “We feed on demand,” she said.
“I understand that,” I said. “But if a child goes five hours without eating anything, wouldn’t you just offer her something?”
“Well, she wasn’t crying,” she said.
“No, sometimes she doesn’t,” I said. “But—“
“Well, usually she lets us know if she’s hungry,” she interrupted. “Believe me.”
“What I would like to see happen is EVEN IF SHE IS NOT CRYING, offer her a bottle every three hours,” I said. “If she isn’t hungry, she won’t eat it. But she should never go five hours without being fed.”
“Okay, we’ll do that,” she said. “But you know usually a baby will cry to tell you they’re hungry.”
Deep breath. “Okay, L. – let me tell you what I am trying to do here. I am trying to avoid having my husband come down here. He is not happy. You do not want him to come down here. Can we just agree that from now on you will check to see if she wants to eat every three hours or so?”
Agreed. Jesus Lord, give me strength.